How To Put Your Mind To Sleep Quickly

As you may already know, your mind must be in the Alpha brain-wave stage to fall asleep. This is the stage your mind enters you're still conscious, but your body and begin to relax. It enables your more rampant and conscious mind to turn off as you enter the realm of sleep.

We all know how it feels,... it's quite unusual actually... When you're lying awake in bed trying to fall asleep it seems like your mind is running on hyper-speed. It's almost like you're thinking 10 times faster than you when you're just normally awake and alert.

In fact, if you experience this often, I can tell you for a fact that your mind IS working harder than it is when you're not trying to fall asleep, and there is a very good reason for it, here's why this happens...

In my books and articles on sleep, I often teach a principle:

"What you focus on expands."

You see, your mind responds to focus, and it goes hand in hand with the law of momentum. What is the law of momentum?

Quite simply:

"Energy in motion, tends to STAY in motion"

"Energy stopped, tends to STAY stopped"

In other words,

If you take action in your life, and begin to create success, you will experience more and more success every day Success breeds success..

On the other hand, if you sit your butt down on the couch to watch T.V and say "Aww, just one show, I'll only watch 1 show"

Very soon, you'll be sitting there for 4 hours, and you'll watch 5 or 6 shows.

The law of momentum is everywhere in life, in physics, with your body, and most importantly, with your "thoughts."

You see, your thinking is very predictable, it all works on the law of focus and momentum.

Your mind is like a big ball of potential thinking energy, just waiting for you to give it a direction to think wildly into...

It awaits and responds your every command. It's an exceptional tool.

Except, most of us aren't very experienced at "controlling" this amazing tool. In fact, a lot people aren't even aware that they can control it!

And this is where sleep problems come in.

Imagine your mind like a giant overflowing lake that's just waiting for an outlet to pour into...

Slowly, when it finds an outlet, it begins with a trickle of water..

That trickle turns into a stream...

Then, that stream turns into a small river.

Pretty soon, the small river is a giant unstoppable waterfall.

Your thoughts work in the same way when you're "trying" to fall asleep.

For example, you're laying in bed, frustrated, forcing your mind to not think.

"I just want to get some sleep! Stop thinking... Okay, starting now... I won't think anymore...

Don't think...

Don't think...

Don't think

Hey... "Don't Think, rhymes with nothing... What is nothing?"

"My life is nothing... If only I would finally get motivated in my job maybe I would finally create the income to start traveling instead of dealing with these problems"

"Problems, how can I ... Ahh, I'm thinking again! Stop"

You get even more frustrated, and repeat the process over again in a few minutes.

So how do you stop it?

It's easy, you see, you can easily control your thinking, except most people aren't aware of the tools necessary!

The good news is, I'm about to give you the 3 step handbook to controlling your mind.

Here are the 3 universal steps that will enable you to not only stop thinking, you'll also be able to lower your brain-waves into the alpha brain-state, which will quickly let you enter sleep.

Step 1) Awareness

Step 2) Relaxed Focus

Step 3) Repetition

Let me explain,

You see, firstly, the main problem that people have when they "try" to fall asleep and "try" to turn off their mind is..

They're "trying".

Sleep isn't something that can be achieved, or conquered. Achieving, takes the use of your mind, which you don't want to work!

So, #1, stop trying! ... Now here's an explanation of the 3 steps.

Step 1) Awareness.

The first step to changing anything is becoming aware that it's happening, especially if it's your mind.

Pretend your mind is racing, and you finally realize that you're thinking... Most people at this stage get extremely frustrated and "try" to force the mind into submission.

It doesn't work! Why? Because, what you focus on expands.

The more frustrated you get, the more you're focusing on frustration, so you'll get even MORE frustration, and more thinking... on an on! Make sense?

So the first step, is to simply become "aware" of the fact that you're thinking. Nothing more

When you notice that you're thinking, smile to yourself, and say

"I just noticed myself thinking... Interesting... "

Now notice what happens inside of you when you do this... something VERY profound...

If "I" just noticed "myself" thinking...

Perhaps... there are really two completely separate identities running your life?

There is the "I"

and there is the "self"

The "I", is the real you, the higher being, the "I" behind the mind, that runs the show, the heart, the soul, the true conscious being, the choice maker.

The "self" - the mind. If left to run the show, will run in endless circles t'll the edge of insanity.

The moment you do this, the moment you become "Aware" - you are no longer a slave to your mind. You have won.

After you become aware... Do nothing, just lay there for 3 seconds... and notice how it feels to be present in who you really are, not the mind, but you, the "I" - there is a great feeling of peace behind that presence in the "I"

Why? Because when you are aware like this, you're aware of the power of your choice making. You now have the power of choice.

Step 2) Relaxed Focus

"What you focus on expands"

Now that you have become aware of your thinking. All you have to do is "direct" into a place that will bring you into a deep, deep place of relaxation.

Think about it, if before your mind will relentlessly race into any direction you give it, why not pick a direction that will give you peace and restful sleep?

Obviously But, most people don't know what that direction really is.

And just what is that direction? It's really easy. If you focus on anything your body does or feels subconsciously, you will begin to become more and more realized.

For example

- Your breathing - The feeling of the pillow on your head - The sounds of nature outside(unless you live in the city) - The warm of your body

These are all things that happen, yet your conscious mind doesn't think about them.

Why does it work?

As you know "what you focus on, expands"... So what would happen if you focused on something that is happening in your "subconscious"?

That's right, your conscious thinking would diminish, and your subconscious mind would begin to take over the entire process of you falling asleep!

Is it really that simple? Yes, in fact it's the simplest thing ever, and it works every-time.

The easiest one, is your breathing. And I promise you if you just try this tonight, you will be shocked when you wake up in the morning "Wow! It worked!"

Which brings us to Step 3:

Step 3) Repetition

As I said, the easiest one to focus on is your breathing.

In the beginning, you'll find this easier said than done. Let me walk you through it.

Begin by taking your focus onto your breathing. Take a deep breath in. Hold it for a short while, and slowly exhale...

Count "1"

Breathe in again... hold it shortly, exhale slowly, and count...

"2"

Why Count?

Because I guarantee you, in the very beginning, you may find it challenging to hold your focus.

In fact, you'll be surprised as you may not even make it to "5" the first time.

Why? Because your conscious ever-thinking mind will butt in and interrupt. You may randomly go off into a barrage of thoughts again.

If this happens, and it very well may, what do you do?

Simply become aware, and begin focusing on your breathing again.

Guess what happens?

As you become aware, 2 or 3 times... Your mind will give up...

I guarantee you, beyond the shout of a doubt, when you get to "10" or "15" breaths... You will feel a wave of relaxation in your body.

This is the silent "click" as your mind shifts from the high frequency Beta Brain-Waves into Alpha brain-waves.

Your subconscious mind will do the rest!

Test - How attractive are you??

Hey, try it out and see how attractive youcan be to the oppositesex.

1. Which place do u want to have a travel most?

A.Beijing ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... go to q.2

B.Tokyo ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... go to q.3

C.Paris ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... .go to q.4


2. Have you ever cried when u see a touching movie?

A. Yes... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..go to q.4

B. No... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... .go to q.3


3. If your boyfriend or girlfriend still hasnot come after an hour of yourdate with him/her, what will you do?

A. wait for another 30 mins... ... ... ... ... ..go to q.4

B. leave immediately... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... .go to q.5

C. wait until he/she comes... ... ... ... ... ... go to q.6


4. Do u like to go to see a movie alone?

A.Yes... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..go to q.5

B.No... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... .go to q.6


5. When he/she asks for a kiss in your first date, what will you do?

A.Refuse... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..go to q.6

B. light kiss on his/herforehand... ... ... ..go to q.7

C. Agree and kiss him/her... ... ... ... ... ... .go to q.8


6. Are you a humorous person?

A. I think Iam... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..go to q.7

B. I think I amnot... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... .go to q.8


7. Do you think you are a capable leader?

A.Yes... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..go to q.9

B.No... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... go to q.10


8. Which gender will you choose to be bornif you are given achance?

A.Male... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... .go to q.9

B.Female... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..go to q.10

C. I don'tmind... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..Type D (go straight toresults below)


9. Have you ever got more than oneboyfriends or girlfriends at a time

A.Yes... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..Type B (gostraight toresults below)

B.No... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... Type A (go straighttoresults below)


10. Do you think you are intelligent?

A.Yes... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ..Type B (go straightto results below)

B.No... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... ... Type C (go straighttoresults below)


RESULTS

Type A : Congratulations! You can extremely attract the oppositesex!
Youpossess a charming beauty in the eyes of them.You not only have aprettyfigure,
but also have a humorousand gentle personality.Youshould be a literate person
and know how toget along with people andcanallocateyour time well,
thus you arealways popular among theopposite sex.


Type B : Quite good! You can easily attractthe opposite sex, butyou will not easily into the loving trap. Your humor makes them want to get along with you. He/She will behappy being with you!


Type C : Not bad! You cannot attract theopposite sex very well, but you still have something good which make them like to get along with you.

You should be an honest personand have a unique view inseeingthings.
You are quite friendly in the eyes ofyour friends.


Type D : Oh! You do not attract the oppositesex.
You do not havemuchknowledge, and not much intrinsic humane values.
You are too rude totheopposite sex. Thus you are not very popular among them.

Does blood type shows your personality?

BLOOD GROUP O
-Cannot stand people who hide the truth
-Make objectives clear
-Possess great deal of confidence
-Honest, optimistic and energetic
-Strength and endurance depend on their aim
-Give up easily if they find the job meaningless
-Positive about the past, thus do not regret about
the past
-Seek financial stability for the future
-Usually stable and calm
-Sensitive towards sincerity
-Give frank, direct opinions
-Ability to concentrate vary from time to time,
depending on aim
-Mostly prefer to lead
-Can overlook details

BLOOD GROUP A
-Pessimistic and too sensitive
-Careful about decision-making
-Make things clear in black and white
-Care too much about social rules and standards
-High tolerance for physical or repetitive work
-Cannot take changes easily
-Lose interest in a hobby easily
-Try hard to forget the past
-Pessimistic about the future
-Able to display cool outlook even though angry
-Short-tempered
-Take longer to heal a broken heart
-Sensitive to others' opinions
-Perfectionist
-Handle one thing at a time
-Work a line between work and personal affairs
-Highly responsible
-Tend to choose hobbies which help them release
stress

BLOOD GROUP B
-Cannot take orders easily
-Make decisions fast
-Can be flexible
-Do not care about rules
-Respect scientific and practical findings
-Maintain the longest interest in what they do
-Seem impatient
-Dislike repetitious work
-Hard to forget recent affairs, but able to forget past
and memories
-Expressive
-Cool and objective
-Although joke a lot, could actually be very shy
-Change moods like the weather
-Cannot stop complaining when they are upset
-Creative and possess new ideas
-Cannot differentiate between work and hobby
-Cannot take orders
-Do not hesitate to introduce innovative changes
and are not worried about theirs criticisms

BLOOD GROUP AB
-Romantic and sentimental
-Extremely practical
-Excellent in analyses
-Give fair criticisms
-Cannot decide when it comes to important issues
-Try to be hard-working
-Tend to be impatient
-Sentimental about the past
-More concern about the immediate problems than
anything else
-Sentimental
-Usually cool and steady, but can get upset with
an immediate, unsolved problem
-Can get moody easily
-Able to handle a wide scope of jobs
-Value hard work
-Quick in understanding
-Not highly responsible and unable to follow-up on
a project until its completion
-Tend to be artistic in approach

The Meaning Of Love

To love is to share life together
to build special plans just for two
to work side by side
and then smile with pride
as one by one, dreams all come true.

To love is to help and encourage
with smiles and sincere words of praise
to take time to share
to listen and care
in tender, affectionate ways.

To love is to have someone special
one who you can always depend
to be there through the years
sharing laughter and tears
as a partner, a lover, a friend.

To love is to make special memories
of moments you love to recall
of all the good things
that sharing life brings
love is the greatest of all.

I've learned the full meaning
of sharing and caring
and having my dreams all come true;
I've learned the full meaning
of being in love
by being and loving with you.

10 Advice For Salespeople!

Salespeople, take heed! Here’s some advice for you.

1) Do not tell customers that something isn’t available and you’re not sure when it will be coming in.

You’ve been doing this for years, and if you didn’t know, your store would be closed by now. You should be able to tell or say something like, next week or next month. Don’t be lazy – you can call your sister store somewhere in KL and see if it’s available there. I should not have to call myself, or I would be doing your job.

2) Stop giving vouchers that are only valid for one day.

What’s up with this? I spend X amount, and your idea of rewarding me is to give me a miserable voucher for RM10 or RM20, which I have to go up to X floor to collect, and to top it off, spend it today? Hello, nothing in your department store costs that little, so I have to spend more money to use it, then you give me another voucher, and it’s a never-ending cycle.

3) No, I don’t want to sign up for 3 plus 1 or 6 plus 1.

Can’t I just come in for a treatment or anything else just once, pay for it and be done with it? Why do I have to be harassed into buying six sessions and get one free and supposedly save money when I actually have to fork out a ridiculous sum and may not even end up going? Oh, and I have to be a member as well, because then I qualify for the sessions that you make me sign up for.

4) Never tell a customer they can go to another store for something cheaper.

All right, what is wrong with you? Wall Street giants have crumbled and you are but a tiny shop in Jalan Masjid India. Even if you have been there since that road was created, someday, a customer will take your advice and go to your competitor. Or complain to a columnist who writes for a national newspaper.

5) Please hire people who speak one of the two main languages in Malaysia, or at least one of the many dialects.

It would be nice if we can order or ask for things from people in a language we recognise in this country or even Manglish. Resorting to sign language is reserved for foreign countries.

6) Stop having conversations in front of your customers.

I don’t know and don’t care if someone is going out with someone else, has not asked you out, did something unforgivable or is the meanest person alive. Please ring up my purchases. Why it takes two of you to do it is beyond me.

7) Why say something will be ready when it’s not?

If you put it in writing to come and collect something at 5pm, and I come at 6pm, don’t ask me if I can wait till 7pm for it to be ready. And I don’t care if the person doing it has gone to eat. They should have finished their work first.

8) There is such a thing as personal space.

Please stop breathing down my neck. I can look at things myself. Good customer service does not include invading people’s personal space.

9) The customer is not as stupid as you think.

Oh, it’s 30% off? But I have to buy two? Then I qualify for an extra 10%? But it’s only for X card? And the offer expires today? In an hour from now? Excuse me while I check if my brains are still intact. You are so making sense.

And the one that takes the cake:

10) Reservations that try your patience. Or why bother?

“We can only hold your table for 10 minutes.” “We will only seat you when everyone from your party is here.” “You may sit at that table, but only for dinner. You will have to move when the band starts.” “I’m sorry, but that table is not free. It belongs to someone.” Excuse me, why did you open a restaurant? This is actually your private home, right?

Someday, Malaysians will stop putting up with all this nonsense and decide never to go to these places again. And someday, we will have excellent customer service. See, I haven’t broken my resolution, I’m saying something positive, aren’t I? Yes, and you won’t be hearing me wax lyrical about handbags anymore.

The relationship between men and women in Islam

The relationship between men and women in Islam is addressed in the Quran and further in the Sunnah. Islam explains to us how to achieve tranquility in marriage and how to reach the highest potential in all other aspects of life.

[ And one of His [Allah’s] signs is that He created mates for you from yourselves that you may find tranquillity in them, and He put between you love and mercy; most surely there are signs in this for people who reflect.) (Ar-Rum 30:21)

Inspired by our belief that better communication within Muslim families, especially between husbands and wives, is the cornerstone for building a strong, actively involved family, we wanted to shed some light on what we believe happens often in many marriage stories.

A relationship between a husband and a wife is like a garden; if it’s to thrive, it must be watered regularly, with “weather hazards” taken into account, such as any unpredictable draught or storm. New seeds must be sown, and weeds must be pulled out (Gray).

Love’s Springtime

The Prophet said, “Nothing is better for those in love than marriage.”
(Ibn Majah and authenticated by Al-Albani)

One fatwa of Shiekh Al-Qaradawi, the prominent Muslim scholar, states what means that love is lawful in Islam as long as that love comes in spite of the person, that person doesn’t go out of the way especially to seek these emotions, and that all Islamic guidelines are kept in mind. However, there is a suggestion that the traditional route for marriage usually has better results.

The beginning of love is its springtime; this is when you feel that you will stay happy forever. This corresponds to the Islamic engagement and `aqd (official documentation of marriage) time and may last for a few months before marriage! During that time, you always find excuses to your partner’s mistakes; you may even become unable to see the mistakes or differences. But this fire of emotions in many cases does not stay forever. Marriage and family therapist Glenn Lutjens suggests that this change takes place in every relationship because of three factors:time, distance, and desire.

Time.

When you get married, you have more time to observe your spouse’s behavior. You see things that weren’t so noticeable at “springtime.”

Distance.

You now see him up close. There’s no “see you next week.” You now see him when he’s hungry and tired. Women may have their “time of the month,” and men have their “time of the day”! When his stomach is empty, you may see a whole new side of your man you never knew existed.

Desire.

Some of the behavior during those days probably wasn’t so deliberate. That type of romantic fire shapes one’s actions; loving deeds come easily to one so smitten by romance. You probably felt the same excitement, with your reactions being affected as well. We tend to construct a person in our minds to match the excitement we want to feel. We mentally vision that person in a way that will make us happiest.

Love’s Summertime

Eventually we realize that our partner is not as perfect as we thought and that we have to work on our relationship. Plants need to be watered even more frequently under a hot sun; this is how the relationship between a husband and a wife should be enriched when it’s no longer easy to give or to get love. Therefore, always remember Prophet Muhammad’s advice:

Abu Hurairah (may Allah be pleased with him) reported Allah’s Messenger (peace be upon him) as saying: A believing man [husband] should not hate a believing woman [his wife]; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be pleased with another. (Sahih Muslim. Book 8, Number 3469)

Many couples become disillusioned after a few of months in wedlock. They give up working on the relationship and blame one another. They forget that it cannot be “springtime” all the time. Yet, no one wants to live in summer forever. So hold your breath and gather all the wisdom that Allah gave you to go through this stage and reach the tranquility, mercy, and love mentioned in the verse. These will be the lasting, calm, and warm emotions of love between a husband and wife who are living for the sake of Allah.

You can think that way: Is this the person I want to continue the rest of my life with? If the answer is “no,” then you will not be willing to invest much in this relation anyway, you will give it a weak try and then give up. If the answer is “yes,” then the question becomes “What do I do now that I found out my partner in not what I thought?” Debating whether your partner misrepresented himself or herself or you misread your partner won’t solve anything. Here are some things you may consider doing:

Choose to love your partner. Remember that it’s Allah Who makes the “love and mercy happen between the husband and the wife.

Seek Allah’s help and ask Him to make that “chemistry” happen. Also, open your heart and give your partner the benefit of doubt; stand in your partner’s shoes and try to see things from his or her perspective.

Look at how you may have changed as well after marriage.

You will not be able to actually change someone. All you can do is provide a different and favorable environment for your partner to want to change.

Realize that you may have legitimate concerns.Voice them to your partner in a constructive way with the hope that he or she will be willing to work toward change or at least understand your concerns.

Express with respect. Use “I-messages”: “I” feel and “I” think, not “you” did such and such.

Invest in this family. Paradise is worth your best effort. A little whisper in the wife’s ear is, “Allah made one important mission in this life which is to make this family happy.” The motive is wonderful.

The Prophet said,
“If a woman prayed the five prayers, fasted in Ramadan, protected her honor, and obeyed her husband, then she will be told (on the Day of Judgment): Enter Paradise from any of its (eight) doors”. (Ibn Hibban)

Do not listen to voices like “He is no better than you are! Why do you have to listen?” The Prophet mentioned the advice for a reason, so do not ruin your life. Instead, invite love to your house and be patient. It is love and happiness in this life and Paradise in the hereafter.

For a better life in 2009

No need to try too hard to make life more pleasant, just follow a few basic suggestions.

We're into the 10th day of 2009, around the time many of us are acknowledging that resolutions made under the influence of “festive spirits” aren’t going to last.

No resolutions for me, though. I’m following the wisdom of my other half who believes you don’t need a new year to make a resolution that is good for you.

Still, as we reflect on a turbulent past year and look ahead with some trepidation, why not ask what we can resolve to do, to make life more pleasant for ourselves and those around us?

You and I can’t help the world economic crisis or the senseless wars. But we can try to lead better lives.

For a start, let’s be more patient and considerate drivers. No cutting queues, no driving like mad people, no intimidating other drivers or giving them reason to intimidate you, no hogging the fast lane while out for a casual Sunday morning drive on Wednesday, no indiscriminate parking and no flouting traffic rules.

Too much to remember? Well, in the first three days of 2009, two dozen people died in road accidents around the country. Mull on this.

Then, how about getting to know your neighbours better?

More importantly, how about creating a community in your neighbourhood, regardless of your cultural or religious backgrounds? Then you can watch out for one other and make your neighbourhood safer and friendlier.

Better still, how about organising occasional get-togethers with your neighbours, where everyone brings food and chews the fat? This can be fun.

You can also practise civic-conscious habits that should be a given by now, but sadly aren’t. These include not littering, and not letting your pets treat parks, sidewalks, roads and other people’s gardens as their toilets.

Also, prevent your cats from proliferating uncontrollably and turning the neighbourhood into their battleground!

Need to dispose of big items from your house? There are people who will carry it away for you, for a nominal fee. In fact, there are even people who’ll do it for free, if these items can be recycled. Leaving such things outside your gate and hoping that they will disappear doesn’t contribute towards making a better neighbourhood. No one likes to walk or drive out in the morning to a dumpsite!

Here’s a great idea for smokers: be extra careful with your smoke and don’t let it irritate others. Stop leaving butts in toilets and basins, and refrain from smoking where it’s not allowed.

Then, at the movies, how about keeping your mobile phone silent and out of sight, so you don’t infuriate your fellow moviegoers?

Find yourself a hobby. Having something creative to do in your spare time is better and healthier than vegetating in front of the TV or going back to the office on the pretext of work. After all, the best of employers insist their workers lead a harmonious and fulfilling life at home, so they bring those good vibes to work. And as we all know, good vibes show in your work, qualitatively and quantitatively.

Yeah, I know, I’m getting too preachy!

On a personal note, the one thing I’d like to do from now is to eat healthy and exercise regularly. But that’s something I say all the time, so here’s hoping for the best.

You may realise I’ve had my say on most of the above in the past, in expanded form. If some of this has, well, inspired you to think wisely and act for the better, great, and thank you. If it hasn’t, we need to talk.

Top Ten Girl's Resolutions Not to Make This Year

Here, ten things that shouldn’t show up on any girl’s list of do’s and don’ts for 2009 based on the Cosmo's survey.

1. Quit your job and wait for a dream career opportunity to present itself. Recession shmecession.
Reality check: Suck it up and hang on to your gig for now. Appease yourself by taking a class or picking up a hobby that will make your résumé stand out, like learning a foreign language or starting a blog.

2. Lose five pounds.
Reality check: Hot chicks like Jessica Biel, Beyoncé, and ScarJo are proof that toned and curvy is the new skinny.

3. Finally win back your ex-boyfriend.
Reality check: Move on. We give you permission to engage in some rebound relationship therapy.

4. Buy into all the latest trends.
Reality check: It’s okay to be a slave to fashion...just be a slave to cheap fashion, rather than dropping serious bank on each and every look. Kick yourself later for wearing it, but don’t kick yourself for blowing your paycheck on it.

5. Change your man.
Reality check: While some relationship tweaking is to be expected (hey, few guys are natural-born good kissers), if the words “fixer-upper” and “project” could describe your boyfriend, it’s time to get real.

6. Triple the number of friends you have on Facebook.
Reality check: Less time stalking your friends’ friends’ friends. More time catching up with buddies you actually care about.

7. Don’t eat any junk food.
Reality check: Cutting out all unhealthy food from your diet will most likely lead to binge eating, followed by intense guilt, by mid-January.

8. Watch less trashy TV.
Reality check: Zoning out and de-stressing for a bit every night with the help of good bad television is harmless.

9. Save more money.
Reality check: Let’s be honest. In this economy, we’re just happy to be able to pay our rent, gas, and credit card bill.

10. Keep your number down.
Reality check: Nothin’ wrong with notches on your bedpost, as long as you’re being safe.

39 Tips For Better Life

1. Take a 10-30 minutes walk every day. And while you walk, smile.

2. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.

3. Sleep for 7 hours.

4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.

5. Play more games.

6. Read more books than you did in 2007.

7. Make time to practice meditation, yoga, and prayer. They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.

8. Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.

9. Dream more while you are awake.

10. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.

11. Drink plenty of water.

12. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

13. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.

14. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

15. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

16. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

17. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.

18. Smile and laugh more.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.

20. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

21. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

22. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

23. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about. Don't compare your partner with others.

24. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

25. Forgive everyone for everything.

26. What other people think of you is none of your business.

27. GOD heals everything.

28. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

29. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

30. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

31. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

32. The best is yet to come.

33. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

34. Do the right thing!

35. Call your family often.

36. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

37. Each day give something good to others.

38. Don't over do. Keep your limits.

39. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.

10 Ways To Maintain A Relationship

1.Communicate

2.Resist making accusations

3.Refrain from insulting your partner during arguments

4.Take time to tell your partner why you love him/her

5.Be supportive and look for ways to give your partner the things they need the most

6.Don’t neglect yourself

7.Never try to solve a problem when you are angry

8.Set aside some time for just the two of you

9.Discuss decisions that affect the both of you and try to find a solution that will keep you both happy

10.Don’t Lie

A Beautiful Heart

The more hurt and pain you have gone thru in life, the stronger and more beautiful your heart will be…..

One day a young man was standing in the middle of the town proclaiming that he had the most beautiful heart in the whole valley.

A large crowd gathered and they all admired his heart for it was perfect. There was not a mark or a flaw in it. Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most beautiful heart they had ever seen. The young man was very proud and boasted more loudly about his beautiful heart.

Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of the crowd and said, “Why your heart is not nearly as beautiful as mine.” The crowd and the young man looked at the old man’s heart. It was beating strongly, but full of scars, it had places where pieces had been removed and other pieces put in, but they didn’t fit quite right and there were several jagged edges. In fact, in some places there were deep gouges where whole pieces missing.

The people stared. How can he say his heart is more beautiful?? they thought. The young man looked at the old man’s heart and saw its state and laughed. “You must be joking,” he said. “Compare your heart with mine, mine is perfect and yours is a mess of scars and tears.”

“Yes,” said the old man, “Yours is perfect looking but I would never trade with you. You see, every scar represents a person to whom I have given my love - I tear out a piece of my heart and give it to them, and often they give me a piece of their heart which fits into the empty place in my heart, but because the pieces aren’t exact, I have some rough edges, which I cherish, because they remind me of the love we shared. Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart away, and the other person hasn’t returned a piece of his heart to me. These are the empty gouges - giving love is taking a chance. Although these gouges are painful, they stay open, reminding me of the love I have for these people too, and I hope someday they may return and fill the space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?”

The young man stood silently with tears running down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man, reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart, and ripped a piece out. He offered it to the old man with trembling hands.

The old man took his offering, placed it in his heart and then took a piece from his old scarred heart and placed it in the wound in the young man’s heart. It fit, but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges.
The young man looked at his heart, not perfect anymore but more beautiful than ever, since love from the old man’s heart flowed into his.

They embraced and walked away side by side.

How To Be A Good Friend

1. Be real. Are you trying to be friends with someone to be accepted into a certain clique, or because you'd like to get to know someone else that he or she knows? That's not friendship, it's opportunism. Every new person you meet has the right to be accepted (or not) on his or her own merits, it's better to just be yourself than let anyone else influence you into being someone you are not.

2. Be honest. A dishonest person has no chance of having true friends. Keep your promises, do what you say you are going to do, and most importantly, don't lie! Lying leads to more lies, and people will eventually figure you out. If you found yourself lying about something, be honest - go up to them, tell them the truth and how you felt, as well as how you may think they would've felt (explain that you were second-guessing rather than trusting your friendship). Don't be a coward; if you know you were at fault for the whole dilemma, own up. Simply talk about it, hope your friend will forgive you. They'd most likely appreciate it in the future, to look back and say, 'wow!' I have/had an amazing friend by my side.

3. Be loyal. If your friend tells you something in confidence, don't blab about it to anyone else. Don't talk about your friend behind his/her back. Nobody likes a backstabber. Never say anything about your friend that you would not want to repeat face to face. Don't let others say bad things about your friend until you've had a chance to hear your friend's side of the story. If someone says something that shocks you and doesn't seem like a thing your friend would do or say, tell them, "I know him/her, and that just doesn't sound right. Let me talk to him/her, find out his/her perspective on this. If it turns out to be true, I'll let you know. Otherwise, I would appreciate it if you didn't spread that around, because it might not be." You can't play both sides of the fence.

4. Be respectful. Know the boundaries. Things you and your friend discuss should be treated with care - your friend is not sharing this information with just anyone, and may not want to. She shared it with you - and only you, as far as you know. Example: If your friend doesn't want to name her crush, don't push her into it. If she has named her crush, don't tell anyone else. This is just common courtesy anyone and everyone deserves the expectation that you will keep confidences.

5. Watch out for your friend. If you sense that s/he is getting drunk at a party, help him or her to get away from the alcohol. Don't allow your friend to drive drunk - take his or her keys and/or drive your friend home personally. If your friend begins talking about running away or committing suicide, tell someone about it. This rule overrides the "respect privacy" step, because even if your friend begs you not to tell anyone, you should do it anyway. Suggest a help line or professional to your friend. Talk to your and your friend's parents or spouse first (unless they are the ones causing the problems) before involving anyone else.

6. Pitch in for friends during times of crisis. If your friend has to go to the hospital, you could help pack his or her bags; if her/his dog runs away, help to find it, if he/she needs someone to pick him/her up, be there. Take notes for your friend in school and give them their homework assignments when they're absent and sick at home. Send cards and care packages. If there is a death in his/her family, you might want to attend the funeral or cook dinner for them. Care about your friend enough to help him or her open up and let tears roll. Give them a tissue and listen. You don't have to say anything, just be with them.

7. If your friend is going through a crisis, don't tell them everything is going to be all right if it's not going to be. This goes right along with keeping it real. It's hard not to say this sometimes, but false reassurance can often be worse than none, and it may undermine your friend's ability to get through the crisis as well as they might. Instead, tell your friend that whatever they need, you are there for them. If they need to talk, talk; if they need to sit quietly, sit with them; if they need to get their mind off things, take them to a movie or concert. Give them a hug. You are friends, not strangers, after all. Just stay honest, but upbeat and positive. Even a stranger would most probably appreciate it.

8. Give advice, add perspective. Don't judge your friend, but do advise to stay out of situations where they may harm themselves or others. Tell him/her how you perceive his/her situation, and what you might do in the same circumstances. Don't be offended if they listen to your advice and then decide to ignore it. Your friend must make his or her own decisions. Avoid saying "You should... ".

9. Give your friend space. Understand if he/she wants to be alone or hang out with other people. Allow it to happen. There's no need to become clingy or needy. Allowing one another the time to hang with other friends gives you much-needed breathing room, and allows you to come together fresh and appreciating each other even more.

10. Never make a promise you know you can't keep. Good friendship is based on trust - if you break a friend's trust, the friendship may be very hard to salvage. Of course, if you have made a promise and planned to keep it, but circumstances beyond your control conspire to prevent it, let your friend know as soon as you find out. Don't wait until 15 minutes after you were supposed to arrive to call and say, "gee, I'm sorry." Instead, a quick call to say, "Hey, I know I promised to help you with whatever it is, but my mom is telling me we are going to my aunt's for the weekend, and leaving tomorrow just after school - that means I won't be able to make it. I'm so sorry. Can we reschedule?" That's just honoring the fact that your friend is counting on you, and respecting the fact that, given a little notice, your friend might just be able to get someone else to help with whatever it was - or not, whatever. But at least you won't be hanging your friend out to twist in the wind.

11. Listen to them. you don't have to agree with them - just listen to what they have to say. Make sure they are talking too and you are not just running your mouth. Some people don't really find it interesting listening to someone talk about their feelings 24/7. If you're monopolizing every conversation with your feelings, they aren't getting anything out of the friendship. Invite them to share their hearts with you as often as you share yours with them.

12. Don't be selfish. Grabbing, stealing and begging are big NOs in the rules of friendship. The friend will soon get tired of this and eventually more towards more selfless people who are willing to give what they get.

13. Learn to share. As before, if you have a selfless friend, they will expect something back, even if they don't make it obvious. This does not necessarily mean giving them large expensive presents. This can just mean being there for them when they need you.

14. Don't abuse their generosity or "wear out your welcome" If your friend does something nice for you, then reciprocate. Money doesn't have to be an issue. Don't use your friends! Don't let them pay every time you go out, even if they offer. Don't help yourself to things at their house without asking, unless you are willing and they do the same at your house. No one wants to be friends with a moocher or feel used. If you borrow something from a friend, take good care of it and then return it without being asked. Also, if you end the friendship then you should return any gifts they bought for you, especially if they gave you any gifts under false pretences. It's proper etiquette.

15. Live by the golden rule. Always treat a friend as you would want to be treated. If you don't there will be repercussions. Don't do or say anything to them that you wouldn't want done to you. Be there for them through thick and thin as long as they are a TRUE friend to you. Also learn to forgive, and apologize. Dont be a brat!

Before And After Wedding

Wife, Husband
Why does a man want to have a WIFE. Because;
W - Washing
I - Ironing
F - Food
E - Entertainment

Why does a woman want to have a HUSBAND. Because
H - Housing
U - Understanding
S - Sharing
B - Buying
A - And
N - Never
D - Demanding


Before/After Wedding

Before Wedding - "you are my heart, you are my love"
After Wedding - "you get on my nerve

Before Wedding - "you are sweet and kind just like Cinderella"
After Wedding -"you are worse than godzila. " *

Before Wedding -Roses are red, violets are blue Like it or not, I'm stuck with you
After Wedding -Roses are dead, I am blue.You get on my head, I will sue you

Before Wedding -Every dinner, he brings you to Shangri-La
After wedding -You want to go, he says Nanti-la

Before Wedding - She enjoys his looks
After Wedding - She enjoys his cheque book

Before Wedding - Shopping at Sogo,
After Wedding - Shopping at Pasar Malam

Before Wedding - She looks like Anita Sarawak
After Wedding - Don't know whether katak or biawak

Before Wedding - Weekends at Resor Tampak Siri
After Wedding - Furthest you go is Wisma Tampak Miring

Before Wedding - He opens the car door
After Wedding - He opens his mouth and snores

Before Wedding - She / he was your ideal
After Wedding - She / he becomes your ordeal

How To Flirt With Women

Every guy wants to know how to flirt with a woman. If you want to get her phone number and have a date with her you need to know the real secrets of flirting. Here's how it works...

You see a beautiful woman that you want to meet and date right? The first question you want to ask me is "so... what do I say to her?". Ahh, a nickel for every time somebody asked me that

Okay... How do you make sure you say the right things? What are the best lines you can use?

The golden rule of flirting is NOT to use mainstream pick up lines. Yeah, you heard me right the first time. Don't ever let me catch you using some cheap line you picked up from a forwarded email, a magazine or a website.

They don't work.

Everyone knows what they sound like and they are very, very lame! You know, chat up lines like "hey, can I have your number, I seem to have lost mine" or "wow I didn't know angels were flying so low these days".

You see, women don't like those lines because they make you look cheap. If you use a fabricated pick up line from a magazine for instance, then you will not make her feel that magical gut level emotion called attraction.

Attraction can be TRIGGERED in any woman if you know how... and let me tell you it is NOT by using lame chat up lines.

It is possible to make a woman feel attracted to you if you know the structure behind it, and every single pick up line out there doesn't do that. That's why women think they are boring and cheap.

If you want to be able to flirt with women, then you will have to create YOUR OWN pickup lines. But it's not the line itself that makes a woman attracted to you, it's the structure behind it.

So here's the deal.

If you said to a woman "Was your daddy a thief? Because I think he stole diamonds and put them in your eyes" ... it just sounds very needy, desperate and wimpy. A woman will NEVER flirt back or get attracted to you that way.

But if you understand the secrets of attracting women, all sorts of new doors open up for you. Here's what you should have said:

"So ... why do women like shiny and sparkly things so much? Oh I know, because they put them in pink cereal boxes when you were little"

Or

"How many hours you go shopping a week? I think you're a little shopping addict that loved to borrow credit cards. You are sooo bad you know that? I think we're gonna get along just great"

If you want to flirt with women and get them attracted to you, be CHEEKY!

To be honest, I can tell you from my own experience that there is NOTHING more powerful than being a cocky but cheeky lil' bastard when you want to attract women. They will tell you that you are mean, bad, have a big ego and hit you on the arm.

But guess what? They LOVE it!

So keep doing what works!

10 ways to know your relationship

10.You feel good about yourself and your world.
A good relationship makes you feel great. It should fill in your "gaps" and make you feel whole. It should give you emotional strength and help you to feel that everything is ok - and will continue to be.
Another good sign is that you're better able to survive disasters at work, at home, etc. - not because you know someone will be there to solve them, but because you know that YOU can.

9. You look forward to spend time together.
Far too many couples stay together out of habit. They don't really look forward to being together and try to find ways to avoid it. For example, they always try to include other friends, go to an event so that they'll have something to do, etc.
Another sign is fear of the "conversation lag" where nobody has anything to say. If your relationship is "right", you'll enjoy spending quality time together - even when it's quiet.

8. You respect your partner and "talk him or her up."
Is there anyone that agrees with everything someone else says or thinks? (I can tell you - nobody agrees with everything I say!) There's no reason you have to agree with everything your partner says or thinks either. However, you should RESPECT them for it - right or wrong.
Further, when you respect someone - really respect them - you find yourself "talking them up" to people. You say things like, "You know, my girlfriend said something that I don't agree with, but it really made me think" or "My husband really knows about wood working - you should ask him about it."
What this really shows is your focus - if you find you're always talking about yourself, you're not focused on your partner - or the relationship.

7. You are really interested in what he or she thinks.
Along with respect, you'll find that you are interested in your partner's thoughts on different things - and you ask. You might have heard the President of your company say something and you ask your wife to get her take on it. Or, you may have come up with an idea that you want your boyfriend to think about - and you're not afraid of getting shot down.

6. You are aware of, but ignore their quirks.
Everyone (even YOU bunky!) has his or her little quirks. Your partner's quirks might even appear cute to you, or at least harmless. If they're getting to you, you should look more closely at your relationship in general.

5. Problems don't make you think about breaking up.
All relationships have problems. It's natural and healthy. However, if every time you fight you feel ready to break up, you should re-think your relationship. People that have good, solid relationships see disagreements as a chance to learn more about their lover, and to get closer. Thus, they don't fear them, but they don't create them either!

4. You aren't scared about losing him or her.
Once you start investing your feelings in a relationship you risk being hurt. This isn't my rule - it's just the way it is. However, if you dwell on the possibility of being hurt, you can't really enjoy the relationship. Further, you shouldn't be concerned that your lover isn't happy. If the relationship is secure - you'll know it

3. You're together "just because."
Many people start dating and then coordinate their lives such that they have to be together - either for finances, kids, family, work, the dog, etc. Is there something keeping your relationship together?
If you're together just because you both want to be, you've got a good reason to stay together! If you're together because you have to be, you'll likely to start having problems.

2. You appreciate other attractive people, but aren't interested in them.
There is someone more attractive than your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife. I don't care whom you're with! If your relationship is good, you still like the way other people look, but don't find it necessary to compare them to your partner. After all ...

1. You are in love.
If you don't know that you're in love, you're not. Love is very difficult to explain, but one of the best explanations I've seen is this:
"Love is when you are more concerned with the well being, safety and happiness of someone else than your own."

Success Tips in Your Career

Some valuable tips from world famous success coach Anthony Robbins

Success - "knowing the right people," "being in the right placeat the right time," and "using the right tools" - Anthony Robbins

Your career is not everything; your life is. But then, what is life without a career or a career without a life?

1. You are always on your own. Even if you work for a big company, you will always be on your own. Companies aren't people.

They're things and they don't have feelings. If you are expecting the company to "take care of you or "do the right thing", you'll be often disappointed.

There are no strong bonds in a company. No one cares more about your career than you do.
Remember that, and don't expect the company to take care of you.

2. Certain jobs fit certain people best. You do have special gifts that fit you for some, disqualify you for others. Take time to assess your skills, temperament and aptitude in depth.

3. Careers are short-term. Your present job can end anytime, even if you own the company! Therefore, think short term.

Don't take your present career for granted. Someone once described a consultant as a person who wakes up every morning unemployed. You should feel the same way. Wake up every morning feeling unemployed so that you'll appreciate your present job more and figure out what you're going to do next. Always have a "Plan B." (No kidding!!)

4. It's more important to be a "people person" than an "achievement-oriented person who always win at the cost of others.

People skills are more important than technical skills.Even in technical jobs, you have to deal with someone. The average performer who are easier to get along with last longer in his job.

5. What you accomplish today will be your calling card tomorrow.

Your accomplishments will determine your marketability. In marketing yourself, it's the results that count. A soccer forward who scores in every game is easier to market than one who doesn't. So make sure you're contributing something substantial and measurable every day. And make sure you keep a written record of your results, in case you forget!

6. If you lose your job, 80% of your marketing for a new position is already done. That's right.

Your reputation, results, accomplishments, people skills, contributions, friendships are all a matter of record. If you've been a contributor, if you've been kind to others and easy-to-work-with, you'll be in better demand. If not, you won't. Nobody can create friendship for you if you haven't created it for yourself.

7. Changing fields, industries, and functional specialties is difficult.

The more difficult it is, the bigger the change will be. Therefore, choose your career path carefully. As management expert Peter Drucker says, "The best way to predict the future is to plan it."

8. If you're fired or laid off, don't sue your former employer.

Ask yourself why you didn't see it coming; or if you did see it coming. Ask yourself why you didn't do something about it. Figure out your part in causing the problem. Then set about creating a new, better life for yourself. There is a better life in your future

9. Don't stay in a job you hate. Hating your job can kill you.

10. Success is difficult. If success were easy, everyone would be successful.

11. There's a special place for everyone. You can create the kind of future you want.

12. The workplace is fun and challenging. It can also be cruel and heartless.

It rewards effort and planning, but tends to punish indifference and lack of preparation. Those who don't manage their careers, who just let things happen - often end up in painful dead-end jobs and lifestyles.

13. You are in full control of your own future.

No one can deny you a happy life if you decide to plan it and work for it. No one can stop you from becoming successful, but yourself.

14. It's never too late for a new beginning.

15. Align yourself with winners. Hang around with winners.

Success really does rub off from others. "If you keep doing what you have always been doing, you're going to get what you've always gotten

Family Conflicts - What Are They?

Family conflicts are as varied as the people involved in them. The turmoil can result from a workaholic husband whose wife feels lonely and resentful toward him and the job that takes him away from her, or children who are a source of continual family conflict and aggravation due to the parent’s lack of consistent parenting skills, or blended families in which an unaccepted step parent or interfering in-laws are the sources of family conflict. In other homes, couples and families are torn apart by verbal, emotional, or physical abuse.

Whether only you are searching for solutions to family conflict, or whether your spouse or other family members also want harmony, there are actions you can take immediately to begin changing your own behavior, and your response to the behavior of your spouse and family.

Creating Harmony In Your Home

* Train yourself to believe the best about your spouse and family. Rather than assuming your husband forgot somethingjust to annoy you, remind yourself how hard he worked today, what a good provider he is, and that he probably just forgot.


* Count your blessings. Instead of grumbling to yourself about what you lack, remind yourself and be thankful for all you have.


* Be helpful, comforting, encouraging, and pleasant around your family. If you practice being helpful, offering comfort, giving a word of encouragement, and being courteous and upbeat, you will likely find that your family will begin responding with the same kind of behavior toward you, and each other.


* Be willing to admit it when you are wrong and be willing to apologize. Not only will you mend a rift in your relationship, you will set an example for your spouse, children, and family.

Aggressive Steps Toward Breaking the Cycle

If your situation is one of repetitive, severely escalating family conflicts, then you or your spouse may need to explore techniques of anger management or, if children are the cause of the family conflict, learn about anger management for parents. family counseling is an option when you all desire to work as a team to resolve your problems, and if marriage conflict is the difficulty, marriage counseling may be the key to restoration and a rekindling of your love for each other.

Since wisdom from God is the greatest foundation on which we can build lives of love and peace, let’s turn to the Common Sense to unlock the heart of family conflict:

How Can Common Sense Help You?

Another principle for conflict resolution is to remove the word “but” from your vocabulary. When you say it, you cancel out everything before the “but.” You also cancel an apology on your part when you state a reason after the “but” for doing whatever you did. For example: “I’m sorry for yelling but if you weren’t so aggravating I wouldn’t have to yell.” In this instance, the key is to apologize for your own behavior, rather than coupling your apology and crippling it with an accusation.

101 Ways To Say I Love You

1. Remember to say "I love you" and "I need you" often

2. Walk hand in hand in the rain.

3. Write a love poem.

4. Call a radio station and dedicate a favorite song.

5. Write "I Love You" in lipstick or shaving cream on the mirror.

6. Hide love notes in a lunch box, briefcase or purse.

7. Make heart-shaped cinnamon toast for breakfast.

8. Place a love note in the personals section of the newspaper.

9. Take a carriage ride around the city.

10. Plan a surprise getaway.

11. Do your mate's household chores.

12. Write notes on future dates in their date book
("I love you,I miss you," etc.)

13. Make reservations at a favorite restaurant.

14. Let them choose the movie.

15. Give a foot massage.

16. Make a heart-shaped bookmark, and place it in their book.

17. Pop in a romantic music CD and slow dance.

18. Throw a just-because surprise party for two.

19. Buy a stuffed animal for your honey.

20. Read each other's horoscopes.

21. Make a list of the top 10 things you love about your partner.

22. Display it in a prominent place.

23. Tattoo your mate's name on your body.

24. Make an album or scrapbook of your favorite memories together.

25. Go camping together and only take one sleeping bag.

26. Send a mushy message in a bottle... a balloon... a sandwich...

27. Cut out a silly cartoon that you know they'd enjoy.

28. Shower together.

29. Dim the lights, and snuggle together on the couch.

30. Be the first to say "I'm sorry" and kiss and make up.

31. Give each other a full-body massage.

32. Kiss every hour on the hour all day long.

33. Send a gift basket of indulgent items.

34. Write "I'm hot for you" in the steam on the bathroom mirror.

35. Ribbon wrap your bed with a big bow.

36. Fill up the gas tank of your partner's car.

37. Act like teenagers. Maybe even pierce something!

38. Show up with a bouquet of flowers -- for no reason at all.

39. Play Scrabble together, using as many "love" words as you can.

40. Run a warm bubble bath for your partner, with lots of lit candles.

41. Meet in the park for a picnic.

42. Hold hands.

43. Leave a trail of rose petals through the house,
leading to a romantic candlelight dinner.

44. Make a donation in your mate's name to a special cause or charity.

45. Pick up their clothes from the floor -- without saying a word about it.

46. Watch an old black and white romantic movie and share a bowl of popcorn.

47. Reenact your first date.

48. Surprise your partner with tickets to a special event.

49. An unexpected hug can brighten any day.

50. Buy a silly, impromptu gift.

51. Send an email just to say "I'm thinking of you."

52. Bring home a balloon bouquet.

53. Serve breakfast in bed.

54. Make an ornament with a picture of both of you for the Christmas tree.

55. Play tag.

56. Wash and wax your partner's car, and leave a little note on the dashboard.

57. Plant a garden together.

58. Leave a mushy message on voicemail.

59. Stay at a hotel for the night, just because.

60. Make angels in the snow.

61. Every time you say "hello" or "goodbye", seal it with a hug and a kiss.

62. Take a drive in the country.

63. Spend the evening looking at the stars -- and make a wish together.

64. Cast a playful wink any time, anywhere.

65. Think up a list of silly little pet names for times
when you're alone together.

66. Read poetry to each other.

67. Celebrate your half-birthdays together.

68. Put a picture of both of you in your wallet.

69. Buy that favorite book or CD for no reason at all.

70. Send a care package to work filled with treats
like food, photos, candy, a love note, heart-shaped confetti, etc.

71. Go out for the evening and tell people you're on your honeymoon.

72. Take a hike together and carve your initials in a tree.

73. Write a thank you note for all the things you take for granted.

74. Make a fire in the fireplace and roast marshmallows.

75. Tape your favorite TV show and spend the evening talking.

76. Do the dishes together, then apply hand lotion to each other's hands.

77. Write a love letter to your partner and cut it into jigsaw puzzle pieces.

78. Decide on secret signals and use them to communicate
with each other in large groups of people.

79. Schedule a regular mid-week "date night" for just the two of you.

80. Do the laundry together.

81. Romance Theater Weekend: reenact each other's favorite love scene
- hers on Friday, his on Saturday.

82. Call your partner at work and ask for a date.

83. Pretend you haven't seen each other for a month. Act accordingly.

84. Send a written invitation to do something special.

85. Take turns reading to each other.

86. Stand outside the window and sing a romantic song.

87. Hide favorite candy in your partner's coat pockets.

88. Put a tape recording of your voice (saying anything)
in the car stereo and turn it on so it plays when the car starts.

89. Go to a drive-in movie.

90. Get up to turn off the last light after you're both comfy-cozy in bed.

91. Hold each other tight during a thunderstorm.

92. Make a tape recording of favorite love songs.

93. Leave a bunch of bananas on the kitchen table with a note,
"I go bananas over you!"

94. Hide love notes in a magazine.

95. Declare your undying love via a telegram.

96. Make a romantic dinner together, and serve it on your finest china.

97. Surprise your partner with a big kiss on the neck.

98. Give unexpected compliments.

99. Share an ice cream cone.

100. Have a picnic on the living room floor.

101. Draw a silly picture of the two of you. Frame it.

Ladies need to know!

Ladies, sometimes we wished so much that u can understand why we do wat we did or said, how easy it would be if all of u can stop that endless questionaires and just straight away pick up wat's in our head. Below are some of the things that wat we guys do and wat we actually meant.

1. Guys have a short memory span, so after going out shopping with ur husband or BF, never never ask him whether he could still remember the colour of the drapes that was displayed at the counter. We can't remember anything, be it the colour, design, where was it displayed, the size or wateverlah... .well... except for the price, we do remember that

2. If u are fat, DO NOT ask us. We will say u are not.

3. For your information we are allergic to the word SALES, we cannot enter any building which have this word displayed all over them... so if u see us trying to avoid these places, plse do understand, its not that we cannot enter, its just that it is such an agony seeing it ,let alone get involve in the activities associated with it.

4. When we say we'll be going for 5 minutes to meet friends at the neighbourhood coffee shop for a sip of coffee, u just need to add another zero after the 5. Our speed of drinking is by default very very extremely slow.

5.When we say "we'll see about that" it is as good as NO.

6. When we horn at you from behind, don't take it seriously, we mean nothing harm, wat we actually trying to say is "get off the road b***h! my grandma can drive faster than you!!"

7. When we ask you to talk softly while u are with your friends, wat we really mean is "if your voice can generate electricity, u'll be lighting up the whole of Malaysia!"

8. When we say get ready to go out, we are actually asking u to put on a face powder and some lipstick..that's all... we don't expect u to try every dress in your wardrobe, empty your blusher or go for a plastic surgery.

9. When u see us taking a nap at the sofa, plse do not interfere, we are actually waiting for some kind of divine intervention.

10. Finally, here is the secret on how to make us submit to your will... .just cry, yes, our heart are not that strong.

5 Things Your Girlfriend Won't Tell You

1. We like the chase – you chasing us.
Yep, it’s sad but true that when a guy is too eager to catch us we wonder why. What is wrong with this guy? Why is he so clingy? Is he a control freak? Is he a serial dater? A player with many girlfriends on the go? Is he insane? It’s not that we don’t want to be caught, we do, we just don’t want to feel trapped and when things happen too fast trapped is how we feel. We need to be sure of our feelings and of our attraction before we can step off the racetrack and give up the chase. You need to woo us to make us yours. Some guys lay out traps, saying all the right things and meaning none of them, in an attempt to woo us and this gives way to our biggest fear; falling prey to an insincere guy who is more about the game than being in a relationship. For this reason even once we’re yours, even once we are sure of your feelings and you are sure of ours, we need to still feel a little bit of the chase. When you chase us we feel like you want us and are willing to do some work to be with us and we don’t want that feeling to go away just because you’ve caught us.

2. When we say we’re “OK” or that things are “fine” the opposite is probably true.
Girls are communicators. It is hardwired in to our psyches to talk and talk and talk some more whenever there is discord or conflict. So if you sense there’s a problem and gather the courage to ask us and we respond with a “fine” or “it’s ok” or some other sentence with less than 7 (short) words chances are good that we really want to talk. So, you think, what’s a guy to do? You ask a question, you get an answer, and you plan based on that answer. Who wants to read between the lines or guess what is really going on? What a waste of time, right? Wrong! When girls pull the short answers out during a conversation it is because we want you to put the effort in to getting us to open up. It comes from a place of feeling like you don’t usually care what we have to say so we want you to put some effort in to getting us to talk so we can be sure we will be listened to. Now those perceptive guys among you may have your hands up right now waiting to ask the obvious question… if a girl feels like she’s not usually heard isn’t that the REAL problem? Yes, yes it is, and one little talk won’t stop that feeling of being marginalized. In psychology we call this a learned response, a behavior that does not come naturally but rather has been developed through a process called social conditioning. You may very well be the most attentive boyfriend since the dawn of time but if her previous guys made her feel insignificant or unheard you’ll have to help her carry that baggage. Heck, you’ll have to help her unpack it and put it away! So when your girl replies with a curt little answer to your questions don’t take her at face value. Calmly and gently ask her a few more times. Once she feels like you will hear her nature will take over and, voila! You’ll be communicating.

3. We want you to have your guy time.
It is such a myth that girls don’t like to let their guy just hang with the boys. It's a terrible lie perpetrated by relationship-phobes throughout the ages. It is totally untrue that we want you to give up your life to be with us. Think of it this way… when we met you and fell for you, you were (hopefully) single and your friends were a big part of your life. Take your friends away and a big piece of the guy we fell for goes with them. So we want you to keep your guy time. We know you need your friends and truth be told we need our friends too. That being said, obviously when you are single you have lots of spare time to spend with friends but when you are in a relationship some of that time is going to be taken up by your significant other (A.K.A. us). That is only normal. It is normal for you to need your guy time and it is normal for you to want to spend time with us. If you find the right balance the guy-time issue quickly becomes a non-issue. It is when we feel like you don’t make as much time for us as you do for them or that you resent being away from your friends when you are with us that the stereotypical “girlfriend verses the friends” scenario takes the stage. It’s all about balance. Spending time with your friends or with us will never be an issue as long as there is a balance and as long as we never feel that they mean more to you than we do or that they come always first.

4. We want to know your friends but aren’t so sure you need to know ours.
I’m not going to lie; this is hypocrisy in its most raw form. We want you to bring us around your friends, we want to know them and we want them to like us, but we aren’t quite as crazy about you knowing our friends. The why of this is as simple as it is irrational and here it is… we want to know your boys so we can understand the kinds of things they may get you to do when we’re not around. In short, will they encourage you to cheat on us, will they get you doing reckless and dangerous things, and will they help you engage in self-destructive activities? What we want to know is if they will be good or bad influences on you. We also want to create a buffer; we want your friends to like us so that they won’t want you to lose us. If there is no tension between your friends and us then we don’t need to fear them asking you to choose between love and friendship. Now on the flip side, we don’t really want you getting all chummy with our friends because we don’t want them to fill you in on all of our dirty little secrets. As previously noted girls are talkers by nature and we don’t want them to let something slip that may make you raise an eyebrow in our direction. We also fear, but will never admit fearing, you wanting one of our friends more than you want us. It’s bad enough to lose your guy to another girl but when that girl was once a friend, well, the sting is even sharper. So allow us this hypocrisy. It’s irrational, that's true, but it’s also quite harmless.

5. We worry that other girls look better now that you are in a relationship.
Mike nailed the core of every girlfriend's relationship insecurity on the head when he brought up the GIGS (Grass Is Greener Syndrome). The idea that life is better on the other side is one of the most destructive forces in relationship world and girls feel that guys fall for it way too often. It is a great fear of ours that once you can’t have other girls you will suddenly want them all. It leads to a lot of unfounded jealousy brought on by innocent comments on your part or casual non-flirtatious conversations with other girls. So what’s a guy to do? In a perfect world you’d stop interacting with other girls altogether but our rational super-ego knows that’s not realistic. What you need to do is follow these three simple rules; 1) never pay more attention to another girl than you do to your girlfriend, 2) never comment over and over how hot/cool/nice/fun another girl is, and 3) if you meet a great girl while you’re in a relationship hook her up with one of your buddies (also known as taking her off the market and getting her out of our face). And should you ever really get the itch to jump the fence and live life on the other side... just do it! Don’t lead us on, don’t cheat on us, don’t sneak around, just end the relationship. If it ends up being a GIGS fueled mistake… oh well, consider it a hard lesson learned and leave us alone... we won't want you back anyway!