20 Principles of life

From Tengku Kyra

I am under the impression that most people do not allow these simple principles into their lives. I know that until recently, I didn't either. I think it's very important to shed some light on 20 permits that you need to allow in your life. Let go of the idea that you're being selfish. Think of it as being self-ish! Many of these permits are familiar, but being an adult and the responsibilities that go along with that move in and take over our common sense! Take a few minutes to go through this list. How many of these do you give yourself permission for on a regular basis? Take away your inner critic's power! Give yourself permission to:

1. Let go of "obligations." If you don't absolutely love it, consider letting it go!

2. Say no! Every yes you say to something, is a no you are saying to your family.

3. Change your mind. Circumstances change, so do moods, feelings, impressions, ideas and people!

4. Reassess your goals, passions and dreams. As you change, so should your plan.

5. Questions others. You have every right to make up your own mind and not just follow along, especially if it doesn't feel right for you.

6. Have your own opinion. Don't let others dissuade you or bully you! You are allowed to think whatever you want, and so are they.

7. Take time off. Honestly, the world will not implode because you took a break! Take time to recharge and you'll function at your peak afterwards.

8. Make mistakes. Life would be pretty boring if you were perfect, not to mention how much others would dislike you because they felt inferior!

9. Sleep in. Rest is important, schedule a day where you can sleep in if you want to.

11. Have "me" time. Having at least one thing that is just for you will go a long way to improve your life.

12. Be grateful for what you do have. Getting stuck in a cycle of i'll be happy when ______, keeps you from being happy, ever. Look around and see how wonderful your life is now!

13. Succeed. Sometime you get in your own way! Fear of failure is less of a factor than fear of success in most cases.

14. Dream big! Small dreams keep you safe, and small! So dream big because even if you don't fully succeed, you'll be much farther ahead.

15. Celebrate "small" stuff. This puts in your mind how grateful you are for what is in your life. Success is success, not matter how small! Treat it with the respect it deserves.

16. Feel really good about yourself. It's not bragging or boasting or being arrogant to be proud of who you are.

17. Feel emotions (even negative ones like fear and anger). To ignore emotions only gives them more power. Acknowledge them and they'll disappear much quicker.

18. Cry. Again, trying not to only makes it worse! Crying is not a sign of weakness, it's a sign of being sympathetic and caring, not to mention a release.

19. Forgive. "Holding anger and resentment towards another is like drinking poison and expecting it to kill your enemy." Forgiveness is for you, not the other person.

20. Reward yourself. When you reach a milestone, reward yourself. While creating your plan, decide how you're going to reward yourself once each big goal has been reached.